Here’s Why You Need To Meet A Gynaecologist Before Getting Married
“A lot of problems can be averted by being armed with the correct and necessary information, explanation and investigation”
The rise in sex education and awareness has paved the way for more and more, young women and couples visiting the gynaecologist for pre-marital and pre-pregnancy counselling and check-ups. This is a healthy trend and a lot of problems can be averted by being armed with the correct and necessary information, explanation and investigation.
There are several concerns that plague a couple and which need to be addressed and allayed. Some of these are issues related to the honeymoon night, pain during intercourse, bleeding during intercourse to establish that a girl is a virgin, pregnancy planning etc. However, here’s some tips on how to ease the stress a newly married couple may face.
Quell Your Doubts
If the girl is a virgin, the initial tearing of the hymen during penetration may cause pain, but this is bearable pain and if the couple uses lubricating jelly, indulges in adequate foreplay and is mentally relaxed, it is not too bad. Also, the pain and discomfort reduces after having intercourse a few times.
However, brides-to-be may have misconceptions that initial intercourse causes unbearable pain. As a result, they are so scared that they push their partner away, close their thighs tightly and do not allow penetration. This is fairly common and may even be involuntary due to fear. As a result, many couples visit the gynaecologist to discuss the issue of an unconsummated marriage, post months and even years after marriage.
Additionally, the myth that bleeding (proof of being a virgin) at the time of the first intercourse, needs to be busted for both partners, as it creates unnecessary doubts in the minds of the husband and worry in the woman that ‘what if’ she does not bleed. Many active women who exercise etc. may have had a hymenal rupture and may not bleed at all!
Concentrate On Contraception
The need to plan a family is also very important as many women become pregnant in the first few months of marriage and are totally unprepared for a pregnancy. Contraceptive pills need to be taken days prior to the marriage to allow the woman to get accustomed to taking pills every day and so that she is protected from pregnancy right from the first day of marriage. The use of condoms is another alternative. However, couples need to learn the proper way to use condoms. They also need to be explained why and how it can prove to be useful.
Be Aware Of Honeymoon Horrors
During the honeymoon, many women experience a condition called ‘honeymoon cystitis’ which is accompanied with a burning sensation and increased frequency of urination. This happens due to friction and superficial injury and infection of the urinary opening. There may be a urine infection as well. Honeymoon cystitis settles with plenty of fluid intake and occasionally with certain recommended antibiotics.
Get These Tests Done
Getting some tests done prior to marriage is also a good idea. Tests such as thalassemia profile of both partners is important, as in case both the partners suffer from thalassemia minor, their child could be born with a fatal condition of thalassemia major. Also, a HIV test as well as hepatitis B test is also advised. If one of the partners is positive for hepatitis B and the other is negative, the uninfected partner can be given the vaccine immediately, to protect him or her from getting this sexually transmitted disease.
Considering all that has been discussed above and to make it a smooth and easy transition as possible, pre-marital counselling is strongly recommended to all couples who are venturing into this major and a new phase of their lives, as all doubts and misconceptions can be clarified with sex education and awareness results in building a good rapport between the couple and their gynaecologist so that for all future problems, they have a friend whom they can turn to, for advice and help.
Top 10 Questions To Ask The Gynaecologist
- Will sex hurt?
- What can be done to make it easy?
- What are the changes to expect in my body after becoming sexually active?
- What tests should we do as a couple or as an individual?
- Is sex during periods safe?
- How can ‘honeymoon cystitis’ be prevented?
- How is a self-breast examination done?
- Do I need to do kegel exercises?
- What is normal when it comes to vaginal discharge?
- What are the birth control options?